"In my integrity you uphold me and
set me in your presence forever."
If you are of a certain age, you might recall that sociologists call the "60s" a pivotal point in the Sexual Revolution of the twentieth century. It was the time that gave birth to Hippies, Rock and
Roll, wide use of Drugs, Free Love, and of course, The Birth Control Pill!
Younger folks may not realize it but there's another sexual revolution taking place and wouldn't you know it, it's finding a niche in the sixties too. No, not the 1960s but among men and women in their sixties and even older. Millennials and younger tend to look at their parents and grand parents and can't imagine that this is an issue. Baby, you'd be surprised whose kicking sheets these days!
One 2012 survey reports that 80% of 50-90 year olds are sexually active. There are over a dozen brands of Viagara-like pills on the market. Cougars (older women) are on the hunt for younger and more virile men who can keep up with them sexually. And of course its no surprise that
STDs (sexually transmitted diseases) are on the rise in the 50+ age group. So, yes we need to have a sexual integrity talk with seniors. Here's why:
Many seniors are lonely, even going online (Our Time website is an example) trying to find love, the second time around. Some are still in reasonably good health, have buried their mates and seek companionship because they fear growing older alone! Let me warn you folks who are considering re-marriage. Blood tests may not be required any more but you might need to know your soon-to-be spouses past sexual history!
Like younger people, they too can find themselves in Hook-up situations. Some couples married for years and years are in counseling right now because one or the other partner experienced a Mid-life crisis, separated for awhile and had an affair or used it as a time of sexual experimentation (sex clubs, prostitutes even going on the down-low).
Integrity, sexual or not has to do with your character. It is the person you really are deep in your heart and it has no age limitations. A lustful unregenerate heart must be transformed just like any other. I'd like to end this series with some words of wisdom from a Christian counselor I listen to frequently on the radio, June Hunt, Hope for the Heart. She loves acrostics too! Add these to the scriptures I've discussed in earlier posts:
I-nvite others into your struggles. A wise mentor or friend (Ecc. 4:9-10)
N-ever put yourself or others in tempting situations. Know your triggers (Prov. 6:27)
T-rust God to meet your needs for love (Ps. 84:11)
E-njoy others instead of using them (Rom. 12:9-10)
G-ive yourself only to sex in marriage (Heb. 13:4)
R-efuse to justify bad behavior. Commit to purity (Matt. 26:41)
I-solate yourself from people who tempt you. (I Cor. 15:33)
T-ransform your mind through the Word (Ps. 119:11)
Y-ield to Christ who lives in You not your own ability (Gal. 2:20)
TRI-Weekly (Three times a week)
TRY weekly (At least one time a week) OR
TRY weakly (Do the best you can)
Sex within marriage is an expression of God in His Unity and One-ness of the Spirit.
Enjoy it as long as you can, but above all KEEP IT SACRED...It is indeed a Holy Trust!!