Saturday, March 9, 2024

WOMEN FIGHTING FOR RIGHTS IN THE BIBLE!!!

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  Women's History month is well on the way and what a year for celebrating! Today's children and teens have a wide variety of women to choose from for inspiration.  They come from all around the world and are in positions of great significance making our communities and the world at large better!

But even as we recognize the accomplishment of women now and in decades past we cannot forget that women have been standing up for their rights in every era!  This was true even during Biblical times when culturally, women were marginalized and considered property of their fathers and husbands.

These women were valued only as assets to family wealth or human vessels to carry the next male heir.  That's why Zelophehad Daughters in the Book of Numbers stand out in startling contrast. 

THE FIGHT FOR INHERITANCE RIGHTS

Mahlah, Noah, Hoglah, Milcah, and Tirzah were the five daughters of Zelophehad, an Israelite heading for the Promise land. After deliverance from Egyptian slavery Israelites were promised land flowing with milk and honey denoting its fruitfulness.  God gave Moses instructions for dividing the conquered lands among His people and Joshua executed the plan (Joshua 17:3-4).  But Zelophehad died having no sons.  Under current law his portion would be dispersed among male clan members.  UNTIL, these five bold sisters stood up to Moses and the people demanding their right to inherit! (Numbers 27:1-11)

They brought before Moses a case so strong that he had no choice but ask God for guidance! Our Just God heard and granted the sisters their rightful due and this set a legal precedence in Old Testament Law.  With this exception, to keep the land they had to marry within their clan keeping  it in the family! (Numbers 36:6-12) 

Yet, this fight continued for women until the mid-1800s.  In the United States only single women could own property and then under special circumstances. If married only their husbands could buy or own land.  This changed later with the Married Women's Property Act of 1848 and by the 1900s every state passed laws giving women this right.

THE FIGHT FOR FERTILITY RIGHTS

Two other women find their place among Women's Rights Activists in the Old Testament, Shiprah and Puah! (Exodus 1:15-21) If it weren't for them, there would be no heirs to claim God's promises in Canaan!  Perhaps Zelophehad daughters heard the story about the midwives in Egypt who risked their lives and took note!  Unlike the culture war women are fighting now, these women were trying to keep newborns alive!  When the Israelites were in bondage in Egypt they grew in such numbers that Pharaoh felt threatened.   When a plan to break them with hard work and inferior resources didn't work, he resorted to murder.  He instructed the Hebrew midwives to kill every male Hebrew boy but let the girls live  (Exodus 1:15-20).  The midwives refused and prevented one of the first incidences of Jewish genocide in history.

THE FIGHT FOR EQUAL RESPECT, HONOR, AND DIGNITY

However, The Greatest Women's Rights Activist in the Bible was not a woman! Before the Civil Rights Movement; Women's Rights Protests, and Black Lives/All Lives Matter Marches with praises  resounding for their martyrs; there was One Who has always been in the forefront of Women's Rights...Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ! 

The small steps of liberty and value women gained in the Old Testament waned over the years.  By the time of Christ, women were denied education even religious instruction.  They could not be a witness in legal matters (their word could not be trusted).  They couldn't speak to men of note in public and their status was little more than household slaves. 

 But Christ restored their dignity through His word and personal example! Mary of Bethany sat at His feet along with His disciples (Luke 10:38-42).  Mary Magdalene and other women were the first witnesses of His resurrection (Luke 24:10).  He conversed with the Samaritan woman boldly and openly. (John 4:7-26) Thus, we see a woman evangelist and missionary in a foreign land and the birth of the Church Age heralded from the lips of a woman. Throughout Christ's ministry we find  women in His company as disciples, highlighted in teaching illustrations, and bearing witness to His glory.  His example continued throughout the Apostolic Age with Paul and others and although contested in some measure TODAY their significance cannot be denied!

THE FIGHT FOR RIGHTS ALREADY WON!

Women's Rights is NOT coveting what belongs to men (Gen. 5:2). There are role distinctions that must be obeyed for spiritual order and harmony!  Women's Rights is NOT claiming rights that are not our own! God still calls the shots! (I Corin. 6:19-20)  But in the course of normal respect, dignity, and justice Christ has ALREADY leveled the playing field! If you consider diversity, equality, and justice for women as a basic human right you can be sure that Christ felt the same (Galatians 3:28). Getting contemporary cultures to agree seems to be the problem.  And so we continue to remind them of the woman's contribution as we exercise with excellence our gifts and by celebrating our right to be acknowledged not just in March but EVERY DAY!


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Monday, February 12, 2024

MESSY RELATIONSHIPS...Anchored in Love!

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Well, it's that time of year again, Valentine's Day. The Hallmark Channel on steroids!

Forgive my cynicism.  I'm all about showing love. And as Dionne Warwick once sang, What the World Needs Now is Love...

 WHAT WE DON'T NEED IS HYPOCRISY!

 Grabbing a card from the Dollar Tree, grocery store flowers, maybe a stuffed animal or boxed candy and calling it love!  I'm not knocking any of these as long as the Giver has put some thought into it! But if you're doing it just for show...then send me a text with an emoji!

 But Sisters, how do you respond to something like that when you really want to hold onto the relationship? When you vowed to God you'd hang in there no matter what if you're married!

Many Christian women are in relationships that are high maintenance and just down right messy!  It's not that you are unequally yoked 2 Corinthians 6:14 but you have a spouse or significant other who doesn't affirm you the way you desire.  A great guy in every other way but not fluent in your particular love language!

These DIFFICULT relationships require more than a once or twice a year compulsory show of affection.  They need something EXTRA to survive!  Something stronger than sentiment, more authentic than materialistic expressions hyped by culture. THEY NEED ANCHORED LOVE!

ANCHORED LOVE DEFINED
Click Here: Luke 6:27-36

Anchored love is living out the mandate of Jesus who compels us to love those who don't deserve it.  To serve without thank yous, sacrifice without complaining, and to forgive over and over.  It is the essence of Agape love-- unconditional and usually non-reciprocal.  Different than Eros love (romantic, emotional, or physical) it does not dissipate over time! More intense than Philia love (friendship) which has its place in marriage but if that's all you have it's no more than a transactional agreement--what you can get out of it! Agape love is the highest form of love! 

When you don't get the attention or gifts for birthdays, anniversaries and the like, Anchored love will remind you that beautiful flowers will die!  Candy will be eaten with nothing left but wrappers in a few days!   Jewelry will get lost among the multitude of other items in your jewelry box! But not so with Anchored love!
 
ANCHORED LOVE SEALED
Click Here: Ephesians 1:13

Messy relationships are hard but are easier to navigate if they are sealed in Christ.  This is a fact!  You can't show or receive Anchored love with grace on your own.  John 15:5b reminds us that without God we can do nothing. Without the Holy Spirit you will not love the way Christ commands. Reliance on the Holy Spirit enables you to love past disappointments! Feel joy in meager efforts of affection!  And keep you from Facebook Envy as you scroll through pictures of elaborate gifts and dinner!  You have peace knowing your true self worth and are satisfied that bills are paid, your children are cared for; and when you really need him, he'll be thereThis is the Spiritual fruit of a love sealed in the Holy Spirit (Galatians 5:22)


ANCHORED LOVE DELIVERED
 Click Here: Romans 5:8

No Valentine exists that can compare with the love Christ shows for those who trust in Him! From the time of Adam, we've had a messy relationship with the Lord! Yet, He loves us still! We are the crown of His creation (Psalm 8:5).  On Calvary He sent His love to us signed sealed and delivered! A valentine fashioned on a blood-stained cross.  With the stripes from beatings He wrote to the world:  Will You Be Mine!?  An Elaborate dinner awaits all who will accept Him as Savior (Revelation 19:6-9) and we are sealed forever more in His love (Ephesians 4:30)!

Dear Sisters, Dionne was right! What the world needs now IS LOVE but NOT the artificial kind!  We need ANCHORED LOVE.... even if it comes wrapped in MESSY RELATIONSHIPS!


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Tuesday, January 9, 2024

HOLD FAST! The ANCHOR of HOPE

 

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 Am I the only one who senses Year 2024 will be particularly   unsettling?  I'm definitely a landlubber, one uniquely comfortable on the shores of life, but recently I've developed the heart of a mariner.  I'm diligently looking out to sea and preparing for the uncertainty of a coming storm.

 From childhood I've heard this  sailors rhyme:  Red sky at night, sailor's delight.  Red sky at morning, sailors take warning!  What I didn't realize was its biblical source:  JESUS!

 Matthew 16:1-4 reads like this: 

1 The Pharisees also with the Sadducees came, and tempting desired him that he would shew a sign from heaven. 

 2 He answered and said unto them, When it is evening, ye say, It will be fair weather: for the sky is red.

  3And in the morning, it will be foul weather today: for the sky is red and lowering. O ye hypocrites, ye can discern the face of the sky; but can ye not discern the signs of the times? 

 A wicked and adulterous generation seekers after a sign; and there shall no sign be given unto it, but the sign of the prophet Jonas. And he left them and departed.

Like the ancient religious leaders we often demand of God a sign from heaven to help us, guide us even comfort us through the storms yet to come but do we not see that it has already been given?  IT IS HOPE!! God tells us not to FEAR but to Hold Fast to OUR HOPE IN CHRIST perfectly illustrated in I Thessalonians 5:21-22  Click Here

TEST ALL THINGS!

We are inundated with information: truth, half-truths and down right lies!  It comes from everywhere and very little can be trusted.  What is true for us now was the same for the Apostle Paul who gave this warning to the Christians at Thessalonica!  In the first few verses of this chapter he tells them to be awake and alert for Christ could come at any time! To live as children of light in this dark world. In other words don't 'fall for the okie doke' as the Old school saints would say: examine or test, the validity of the information you receive with the Word of God  Click Here: Romans 2:18

HOLD FAST!

Even with thorough examination of the Word and the discipline it demands, Christians may have difficulties but we must not give up!  To hold fast in nautical terms means to grab on to something solid and secure to keep from being swept overboard.  I don't have to tell you how rocky the seas of change are today.  Even as I write socially, politically, mentally, economically~we are experiencing it all!  Yet, The Lord Jesus Christ the Rock on which our anchor of hope holds will keep us steady, keeping us true to all that we have learned! Click Here: Matthew 7:24-27

AVOID EVIL!

There was a reason in Jesus' High Priestly Prayer recorded in John 17:15 that He asked God  not to keep us from the cares and woes of this world or its deadly influence.  He didn't ask that we be spared by way of escape at all but to be protected from the evil one." He then in the 17th verse exclaimed: "Sanctify them by the truth; your word is truth!"  If we know TRUTH then we know EVIL when we see and hear it!  So its incumbent  upon us to avoid even its "appearance"as shown earlier in I Thessalonians 5:22.   TEST, HOLD AND AVOID EVIL! Do this and your anchor will hold!


IN TIMES LIKE THESE

In times like this you need a Savior,

In times like these you need an anchor,

Be very sure, be very sure

Your anchor holds and grips the Solid rock!

(Hymn by Ruth Caye Jones, Copyright 1944)


MORE SCRIPTURES TO ENCOURAGE YOU: Hebrews 10:23-25; Mark 9:23; Psalm 71:14; Romans 12:12; Romans 15:13; Jeremiah 29:11; I Peter 1:3; Isaiah 40:31

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Saturday, December 9, 2023

UNHAPPY "HOLY" DAYS!!!

 

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But we prayed to our God, and because of them we set up
 a guard against them day and night.  (Nehemiah 4:9)

🎵It's the most wonderful time of the year...🎵

Well it should be Anyway!

This time of year what is commonly referred to as the Christmas season is really in the Christian tradition, Advent! The word  Advent simply means the arrival of a notable person, thing, or event. But for us it's much more.  It is a time to celebrate and prepare!


CELEBRATION AND PREPARATION

The celebration of the birth of our Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ's first coming and preparation for His second coming  (the timing scientifically unknown yet uniquely sacred to His Saints). But for many it is interrupted by Bad Actors of the holiday season.  A powerful reminder that advent can be the UNHOLIEST TIME OF THE YEAR!  God's Word warns us that as sheep among wolves we should be "wise as serpents and harmless as doves"(Matthew 10:16).  We need to remember that dishonorable people are also preparing with wickedly ingenuous ways to cause innocent people harm.

SCAMS, PORCH PIRATES & IDENTITY THEFTS

As we move deeper and deeper into the world of technology and social media we find evil has kept pace as well! Even though we are consistently warned and have expensive apps at our disposal none can guarantee absolute safety from theft. During the holidays we are busier than ever which means that we become distracted more easily. A phone call sounding like a loved one in trouble; a text from an online shopping store warning you of expensive purchases being charged are all meant to frightened you into giving up confidential information.  FEAR is a well used and faithful tactic that works during this season! "But God has not given us the spirit of fear but power, love and a sound mind." (2 Timothy 1:7) 

TEMPTATION, RELAPSES & SELF HARM

We must not forget that every danger a Saint faces does not come from outside. "Watch and pray that you may not enter into temptation.  The spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak, Jesus says in Matthew 26:41. Emotions and temptations run the gamut during this season of supposed joy and festivities. Everyone wants to capture the feeling of lightness and giddiness to temper at least for awhile the troubles plaguing us at other times! But remember my post from a few weeks ago, The High Cost of Misspent Emotions! For some the cost is bondage and even death!

Single Sisters: Beware of Holiday Hookups as temporary relief from loneliness!  Business Owners: avoid price hikes or the use of inferior materials to boost profits and make up for Down Times in sales!  And one more! Saints don't like to talk about this one! Buying or charging an expensive outfit for a party; wearing it hiding the price tag and then returning it to the store after Christmas!  THIS IS DECEPTION AND IT IS THEFT!!! (Leviticus 19:11)

CHRISTMAS, ADVENT, KWANZAA, YULETIDE - Call it what you want...

 BUT IF JESUS AIN'T HAPPY, IT AIN'T HOLY AND YOU WON'T BE HAPPY EITHER!


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Wednesday, November 8, 2023

A HOLIDAY "TWIST" ON THE "TOTAL WOMAN" QUITS!!!

 

It's been almost four weeks and Total Woman: The Bible Study is still resonating in my spirit!  How about you? Have your emotions been recently challenged? Still finding it hard to manage those negative thoughts and feelings? 

Maybe Emotional Spirituality (our study theme) is not a problem for you any more!  Well hang on to your"Halo" Sister... THE HOLIDAYS ARE JUST AROUND THE CORNER!!

If there was ever a time Saints could suffer a relapse in Emotional Spirituality it's during the holidays.  Those stressful times between Thanksgiving and New Years Day!  Don't think because  you attended a bible study or go to church each week that this year will be different!  You won't find a difference in escalating grocery prices and crime.  Common items you want will still be in short supply.   And you"ll still feel the affects of high pressure demands on your time and money. The Difference (if any) will Be In YOU!  REMEMBER.... YOU'RE COMPLETE IN CHRIST! (click here) Colossians 2:9-10

  NOTHING MISSING, NOTHING BROKEN, NOTHING LOST!

  Refresh yourself with the study's teachings by Geri Scazzero's, The Emotionally Healthy Woman: Eight Things You Have to Quit to Change Your Life (Zondervan, 2013) 

  • Quit being Afraid of What Others Think! - Every year you host the family dinner but this year you don't have the time, money or energy. Yet, you don't want to disappoint or rock the boat! What should you do? Pretend you're okay with it and complain or ask for additional help or maybe a change of venue!  (click here) Galatians 1:10
  • Quit Lying! - Over spending during the holidays is almost a "given" in most households. We buy gifts you can't afford,  for people you don't like, or out of guilt because somebody gave you one last year! You suffer from FOMO (fear of missing out) so you attend every holiday gathering, eat too much of the wrong things, too often but swear you'll take off the extra weight  in the new year! You say it's being in the Christmas spirit, but when you step on the scales or the credit card bill comes you get depressed!  Now what spirit is ruling you? (click here) James 4:17
  • Quit Faulty Thinking! - The holidays are a perfect time to let those negative thoughts  flow free! Relationships become strained and are often severely broken because of innocent words spoken that someone misinterpreted! We make things "personal" that have nothing to do with us! Family and work stresses cause nerves to be on edge and attitudes testy making us think the worse about others simply because we "feel" some kinda way!  Our feelings are not reliable information. Beware my Sisters and extend extra grace in these situations!  (click here) Philippians 4:8
  • Quit Living Someone Else's Life - We all want to be liked and to some degree please others.  But when doing so changes who you are this is a problem! Not only for us but also for God!  He has made each of us unique in every part of our being.  Even identical twins aren't really "identical!" Temptations abound during this season. We try to impress others with social media posts in holiday attire.  Go places we don't ordinarily frequent behaving in ways that just doesn't fit who we are! Get a grip and enjoy Your Authentic Beautiful Self!  God makes no mistake! (click here) Ephesians 2:10

GO BACK TO YOUR SPIRITUAL TOOLBOX!

Everything we need to get through any season of life is in God's Word! He knows and understands our weaknesses and flaws! (click here) Hebrews 4:15  That's why He cautions us through the men and women of the bible to:

🦃 PRAY WITHOUT CEASING!  (click here) I Thessalonians 5:17  

🦃  READ HIS WORD! (click here) 2 Timothy 3:16-17 

🦃  RENEW YOUR MIND! (click here) Romans 12:2 

🔔  PRACTICE SELF CONTROL! (click here) I Corinthians 9:27 

🔔  EXAMINE YOUR SELF DAILY! (click here) 2 Corinthians 13:5 

🔔  REJOICE IN THE LORD ALWAYS!! (click here) Philippians 4:4

ENJOY YOUR HOLIDAYS!!!😉


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Thursday, October 5, 2023

THE HIGH COST OF 'MISSPENT' EMOTIONS!!!


"Each of you should use whatever gift you have
received to serve others, as faithful stewards of
God's grace in its various forms." (I Peter 4:10
)

Greetings Faithful Readers, excuse me if I'm a bit emotional (pun intended) but I'm just coming off an intense Bible study for women entitled: Total Woman: Emotionally Healthy Spirituality! A hundred or so of my Sisters in Christ and I took a deep dive into a rather sensitive area of our being and found some interesting results.  

The Bible study was a sequel to a March church event sponsored by our Health and Women's ministry. An exposition and forum featuring experts gave attendees holistic approaches to our mental, physical and financial health.  We were informed!  We were enlightened! But we needed just a little more motivation!  Where would we find it?  Not surprisingly, in The All-Encompassing Word of God!

The Apostle Peter says this:  His (God's) divine power has given us all things that pertain to life and godliness, through the knowledge of Him who called us by glory and virtue, by which have been given to us exceedingly great and precious promises, that through these you may be partakers of the divine nature, having expected the corruption that is in the world through lust. 
(I Peter 1:3-4)

Sisters, when it comes to living the abundant life, Christ promises in John 10:10, we must consider what makes us different than God's other creations--Our Emotions! As God's relational rulers of the world, we have unique strengths in nurture and relationships and can experience emotions in a very intense way!  So is this a Blessing or a Curse!?  Let's explore that idea!

Emotions are a Gift from God!

James 1:17 reminds us that every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.  Humans are the pinnacle, the crown of all that God created (Psalm 8:5) and with that royal position comes heavy responsibilities and accountability!  Who but mankind can enjoy the relationship we have with Almighty God.  We can speak to Him; feel His presence, and He even shares His secrets with us (Psalms 25:14)! 

Emotions are Powerful and Must Be Controlled!

Much like dynamite or nitroglycerin, our emotions are fragile and can become explosive! When sin entered the world it tainted all that God created and certified Very Good (Genesis 1:31). This included emotions residing deep within our human nature (Romans 5:12). Therefore, we were forced into a battle between God's intended good and Satan's evil purposes (Genesis 50:20).  Driven by our thoughts, desires, and beliefs we're in a brutal but not hopeless battle.  Still, this fight takes incredible Spiritual Energy!

Emotions Need an Outlet!

When ignited, emotions have to go somewhere!  Even the negative ones!  We just have to make sure they end up in the right place.  We do ourselves no favor when we pretend we don't feel what we feel!  Culturally, the world has distorted God's design for human emotion: Men are not supposed to cry!  Women are too emotional!  People show strength when they suffer in silence! If it feels good do it! Any of these taken out of proper context can lead to devastating effects.  That's why we need to count the cost (calculate the consequences) for the emotional energy we expend in all situations!

Emotions have a Cost   

The subject of stewardship (using and managing resources for the glory of God) generally comes about when talking of tithing or some type of giving in the church!  We are cautioned about where and how we spend our money. But it goes way beyond that.  It covers all of God's gifts: Time, Money, Talents, Health, Relationships, Energy, Climate, Information. Everything we have as an asset is gifted to us and GOD OWNS IT ALL! (Psalms 24:1-2)  Like everything, all mentioned have a cost and if abused or used neglectfully can be very expensive!

1. ANGER: Jobs/careers (yours or your family's); friends, or even loss of life
2. JEALOUSY: A precious relationship; your integrity, bondage to unhealthy behaviors
3. ANXIETY: Physical health issues and mental disorders of every kind
4. STRESS: All of the above and can Spiritually put you in a free-fall of hopelessness and depression

Negative Emotions Can Be Redirected! 

(The Word of God is the best resource for developing a plan to steward and manage our emotions.)
 
Although the word emotion never occurs in the bible, there are many examples given of its positive and negative results. Unlike many self-help manuals or therapeutic regimens, Emotional Redirection begins with a Change of One's mindset and conforming it to Christ's (Philippians 2:5; Romans 12:2).  We then move to a more effective course in Behavior Modification: The Put off and Put on Principle (Ephesians 4:22-24).  We finalize with a Maintenance Program of  Prayer, Praise, and regular Power Fillings of the Holy Spirit (Galatians 5:16; 5:22) 

All of America seems to be on a Health Kick!  Work Out, Eat Plant Base, Fast, and Sleep More!  Yet, we are STILL one of the most Emotionally Unhealthy countries in the world.  Without a doubt we are the most violent and our current government officials in shameful disarray!  

These are God-Size Problems to be sure! But we can help by taking care of ONE of them!!!  Ourselves!  Let's commit to getting Emotionally Healthy and then Pass it On to Others!  Not to do so is ….

A COST WE JUST CAN'T AFFORD!

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Monday, September 4, 2023

THE JOURNEY ''BACK'' TO SISTERHOOD (FINALE) - Drama Queens!!!

 

Why is it that just when a sister friend relationship starts coming together, the Drama Queen shows up?   It never fails, somewhere between those wonderful fun-filled social activities and long chats of sharing, she makes her appearance!

One little comment gets taken way out of context and before you know it...here comes the drama!  All of a sudden the conversation gets strange or even non-existent and when you ask what's wrong, the face drops to the floor, eyes water up and it all comes out..."I never thought you would ever treat me like that...After all we've been through I thought for sure you would have my back!"  Always over the top with everything normal stuff doesn't happen to a DQ, it's a national crisis in her life.

But Lord, you gotta love those Drama Queen Sisters.  I mean REALLY, the Lord says you HAVE TO!  I Corinthians 13:7 says this: Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

The best way to handle a Drama Queen friend is to not feed into her theatrics.  Down play the seriousness of the situation and although it will take a few times for her to get the message; it won't be long before she moves on to the next person.  Remember no Diva wants to play to an empty theater!  It's no fun if she doesn't get the right response.


A second way, is to set limits to how long you will give them a listening ear.  If on social media, simply stop responding!  If you're face to face, find a way to shorten the conversation.  Move to another conversation as quickly as possible. Not rudely but firmly give your attention to another person in the room or even distance yourself by focusing on an activity that will take you away from the situation.  

Now of course a real Drama Queen will want to tag along or even hunt you down if you escape too quickly. But you can honestly tell her that this is time that you must spend by yourself to do some thinking and when isn't taking a break from the busyness of this world not warranted.  Even Jesus did this!  (Mark 1:35-36).


An opposite approach may also work.  You pick a time and place and actually spend some time with her!  These dear sisters are starving for attention, but seeking it in highly annoying and inappropriate ways!  Let her vent for a few minutes and then stop her with some thought-provoking questions.  Keep them rational and objective, free from emotion:


Did this really happen, just like that?  Have you prayed about it?  What three things could you do to address this issue?  The point is to try to reduce the emotional fuel behind all the theatrics and help her think through the issues.

Last but not least,  make sure the Drama Queen knows that she is not the only sister that you can connect with as a friend, companion, or acquaintance.  As much as she would like to believe that you simply cannot live without her, prove to her that her friendship although cherished will not be allowed to consume you emotionally or your time!


By all means, treat your Drama Queen sister with patience and tenderness.  Pray for her, pray with her but do not handicap her by feeding into a behavior that will eventually devastate all her relationships and actually pushes God off the throne of her heart.

UNTIL NEXT TIME...


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