Sunday, May 10, 2015


Let no corrupting talk come out of
your mouths...(Ephes. 4:29)
What are little boys made of?  Snips and snails and puppy dog tails?  That's what little boys are made of! What are little girls made of? Sugar and spice and everything nice.  That's what little girls or made of!

Well you could have fooled me! Last week's beat down of a high school girl by an enraged school mate went absolutely viral! I've seen a video clip of the recent boxing match between Mayweather and Pacquiao and that fight was mild by comparison.

Even without all the details, I knew intuitively, that this fight was caused by trash talking or some uncalled for communication between the two and it probably had been going on for awhile.   You just don't unleash that much fury off a casual comment! Knowing my female specie's expertise with the tongue, I figured little sister went for the juggler and he responded with a T.K.O. right in her mouth!  THEY WERE BOTH WRONG!!

Insider's say that it was a case of bullying and that this sort of thing is happening every day all over the country.  I believe it!  Young people today have taken childish teasing and taunting to a new and vicious level since my childhood. Whereas surviving a bully or two was a rite of passage into young adulthood then, it was never so severe that a child would think of suicide just to escape.

It's time to put a stop to this foolishness and talk to our youth about responsible speech and behavior.  But wait!  Could it be that the apples are not falling very far from the trees?  I did a little research on the subject of bullying and found that:

 a) Bullies generally have at least one influential person in their life who is also a Bully!  That could be a parent or someone older they spend time with regularly. They may possibly have even been  one of their victim.
b)  Bullies are often stressed over adult problems and situations of which they have no control. Remember bullying has to do with balance of power. Stop sharing adult problems with your children!
c) Bullies like and need attention.  If they'don't get it in a positive way from nurturing adults spending time with them, they'll get it acting out!
d) Bullies are products of inconsistent or minimal discipline.  They have not learned that there are consequences for their actions, neither have they been taught respect and empathy for others. 

No one wants to hear that their child is a Bully or the Victim of a Bully!  That's why simply taking time out of your busy schedule to talk to them and then LISTEN...REALLY LISTEN to them when they talk about what's happening at school is so important!

The writer of James tells us that the tongue is a fire , a world of iniquity which can defile the whole body ( James 3:6-10).  It can be the catalyst for violence and destruction as in the daily occurrences in schools all around our nation OR it can be used and modeled by responsible adults to combat bullying; educating youth to express their anger and frustration in positive ways.  


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