|Teach older women to be quiet and to be|
careful how they act also..
It reminds me of a story about a Christian brother whose friends kept teasing him about settling down. Every time they asked him about getting married, he'd always respond, "Man, I'm waiting for a real woman." Well, one day he found her right there at 10:30 a.m. service. They dated for over two years and he just knew she was perfect for him.
On his wedding night, as he anticipated the "big moment," he looked up and a stranger walked into the room! His "real woman" had taken off her false eyelashes, her wig, took out her partials, and on the floor was a push-up bra and a pair of bootie pops! Just as he started dialing 911, she sweetly said, Honey, it's okay, don't you know? It's awful hard to find a real woman!
I wonder if our hurting teens and young adults (some in church and out) look at the behavior of Self-proclaimed Super Saints say the same thing...it's awful hard to find real women in the church! Let that not be said about you my Sisters. A few weeks ago, I penned a letter to my
younger sisters, sharing an older woman's perspective on cross-generational relationships.
As expected I got a lot of "AMENS" from women in my season and older. However, I want to be fair! I do understand for some young women, the church may be the last place they go for an authentic Titus 2 relationship. Let's remedy that while we still have a chance!
Wisdom teaches that before I start pointing fingers at others to look first at myself. I've been doing that recently but not trusting my own assessment; I also went to the Word of God and have been praying Psalms 139:23-24
From my own experience, I see that some older women need to be taught how to look and act like seasoned women of God. Sisters many of us are suffering from an identity crisis! We don't know who we are as older women and as a result our younger sisters are totally confused. I hate to break it to you....but younger women don't really want YOU to be their Girlfriend! They want a REAL woman they can depend on to give them TRUTH with LOVE and RESPECT!
According to Titus 2:3-7
REAL WOMEN TEACH CHARACTER (vs. 3) Reverence has to do with holiness, Holy living! There are some things that real Christians women won't do! It's simply not in our Spiritual DNA. Paul mentions gossiping and drinking but being mean spirited and nasty is just as bad. Trash talking and bullying young females whether on the internet are in person is demeaning and detrimental to any relationship you want to nurture.
REAL WOMEN TEACH MODERATION (vs. 4-5) Simply put, to be sensible. What has happened to common sense, Mother wit, Horse sense, things like don't spend more money than you make (accrue credit card debt); Don't talk to strangers (meet, date, hook-up with men you know nothing about); Keep your children out of your personal business (expose them to your on again, off again relationships, vices, etc.) Go to sleep at a decent time and stop eating so much junk food (two reasons many women and their children suffer from obesity and ensuing health problems.)
REAL WOMEN TEACH GOOD THINGS (vs. 7) They not only do so with words but by example. How to value and respect their bodies, to lead with grace in their private and public lives (integrity) and to prioritize what God values and not the present culture. We do this not to impress or to appear spiritual but to bear out the Truth of God's Word...to show that God's way works.
So, the next time a young woman puts up a symbolic HELP WANTED: I NEED A REAL CHRISTIAN WOMAN sign...why not...Step up and Say....APPLY HERE!
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